True love or fickle infatuation.
Based on this idea that whenever we like someone, we go deeper into what is it that draws us to him or her. However that's merely an infatuation. But when more than three of the aspects from this theory are present, you can be pretty sure that it’s more than just a feeling.
Mind. Heart. Body. Soul.
1. The Mind Aspect, Intellect
The way she thinks, processes and analyzes things beyond a shallow self-centeredness. The way she puts across thoughts not for winning an argument’s sake, but to understand or even sensibly debate opposing views that might leave anyone reflecting on her words or make one think differently.
It’s the way she carries herself off with an aura of sophistication and enigmatic charm, that no matter how much I might already figure her out, she’ll still surprise you with something unexpected. And to talk endlessly about the concept of nothing, only then will you be able to talk about everything else.
It’s the way she carries herself off with an aura of sophistication and enigmatic charm, that no matter how much I might already figure her out, she’ll still surprise you with something unexpected. And to talk endlessly about the concept of nothing, only then will you be able to talk about everything else.
2. The Heart Aspect
What really matters to her, her insecurities, fears, likes, dislikes, everything. To understand each other’s heart and learn to accommodate each other’s differences not ‘because I love him and that’s all that matters’. But to care or find out the little things about you. It’s not a matter of whether it bores him or not.. it’s a matter of whether he bothers or not.
Two people need to give and take, for any kind of relationship to work. If he really loves you and you're important to him, he'd take a greater effort to close the gap in differences between you two.
He’ll show it by the things he will do or be willing to do no matter how inconvenient or silly it might be, just because he knows it’ll make you happier or better. Two people wanting to understand each other.. sharing the good, the bad and possibly a future together; supporting each other’s feelings, values, dreams, thoughts and emotions.
3. The Body Aspect, Physical Attraction; Intimacy and Presence
I think the whole love at first sight concept is bullshit that only exists in movies and fairy tales. In reality, it isn't love but probably lust at first sight. Lust at first sight, that momentary attraction or desire– That’s really just a superficial physical attraction.
Which leads to
4. The Fourth Aspect. Soul
The deepest form and the final affirmation that should answer any remaining doubt or questions as to whether we've truly fallen in love with a person.
It’s when you start noticing but still appreciate all the other little things - the flaws. It’s when you truly know a person stripped down of all their walls, exposed to their soul and yet still accept and love him or her.
A level of understanding and acceptance, when you finally realize this is someone that you'll always want to tell everything to; and want to ask/know everything of as well.
It’s when you actually want to share your life and trust your secrets with this person; and you can. This person cares and will really listen, giving you their undivided attention and genuine love; This one person makes your problem their problem and they go through it together with you just so you don’t have to go through the pain and tears alone.
❤
We often and will find one or two aspects in different people, that alone may be enough to make us attracted to them. That is not love, it's just liking the body and/or mind aspect of a person.
But on a rare occasion when you do meet someone who possess all four of these aspects. You’ll almost definitely know that he/she is not one of many but may just be the one.
So don't settle for anything less.
So don't settle for anything less.
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